I get a report from my nine-year-old son's overnight camp that he is largely unable to read the nonverbal responses kids have to his humor. And, unfortunately, those responses are very negative. And, unfortunately, this is a camp for kids with Asperger's so the bar was not very high to begin with.
I am sad.
I have been through school districts in Manhattan, Brooklyn, and Madison, WI. I have hired lawyers, I have spent tons of money to win everything I want. I have been through enough hearings to know that in our current school district I would have to spend loads of money to enforce my son's IEP and then I'd win and then everyone in our town would hate me.
Being right is not as important as being a good mom. So I decide the first kid I'm taking out of the schools is my nine-year-old who needs special services and it's easier for me to spend my time earning the money to pay for services than to spend my time fighting the school systems to get services for free.
I am nervous about telling my son. I am worried he has already been sold on the idea of school by the school. I plan out what I will say and I rehearse. I worry he will not trust me to teach him. Or he will miss his current teachers. I worry he'll call my bluff on the whole idea that you can learn from home.
At the end of dinner I say to my son, "We are going to do school at home this year. No going to school in the mornings for you anymore."
He says, "What will we do for recess?"