When I lived in New York City, I saw a lot of amazing school stuff going on. Gorgeous gardens tucked between skyscrapers. Tall cast iron gates helping children feel important and special. Tons of details that were too expensive for the lifestyle we could afford. I spent a lot of time wishing I could get my kids into a school like that.

Today my friend Melissa sent me these photos of a school in Denmark. My first thought was, "I want my house to feel this good as this school."

Then I thought how it's such a huge shift for me to be concerned about the house instead of the school. If the kids are in school for the majority of their waking day, then I feel obligated to focus on making school the best place. It they are not at school then I can focus on our home.

It's great if every place in a child's life is magical and perfect and full of wooden panels pointing to big dreams. But every place cannot be like that, and parents need to focus their energy on something. It's a relief to me to focus it on our home.