Understand Your Child’s Personality Type and Become a Better Parent -Featuring Two Special Guests
This course includes four days of video sessions and email-based course materials. You can purchase this webinar for anytime, on-demand access. The cost is $195.
My son buys new clothes almost every week. He is happy at the Gap or at the thrift shop. He just likes trying on new things. I would never wear yellow pants—I hate shopping. He is neither of those things. So I started thinking that I had created a monster: Materialistic! Shallow! Questionable taste!
Then I learned about his type—ESFP—and I read over and over again that it’s the nature of that type to want lots of outfits to choose from because clothing is an essential form of expression for this type. And it made sense to me that I wouldn’t understand him more instinctively because my type (ENTJ) is largely uninterested in the daily rituals of clothing. ENTJs focus on visionary, long-term thinking.
After I started learning about my son’s type in relation to my own type, I was shocked that we don’t learn this sooner so we can all be better parents.
Actually, I would have liked to know about personality type when I was a kid because then I could have given everyone a road map for how to deal with me: “Hey! You! I’m an ENTJ, which means that I don’t do anything just for fun. I want a goal and I want to be an achiever!”
You can tell a child’s personality type as young as three years old, and personality type remains largely unchanged throughout life. So much of parenting can feel like a struggle, but in fact, any child can excel if you ask that child to be the best version of who they are, and you will understand better who they are the better you understand their type.
SP‘s like to learn by moving around and doing things with their bodies, so they are most likely to be diagnosed with ADHD since teachers need the SPs (and all the other kids) to sit still.
INTJs are so good at self-directed learning that if you leave them alone as kids they will manage their own childhoods pretty effectively. If you ask an INTJ what would have made their childhood better, most will say if people trusted them more and left them alone to manage themselves.
ENFPs are most likely not to finish college because school caters to black and white thinking and ENFPs hate black and white thinking. But ENFPs are incredible at coming to terms with gray areas, so they prefer, even need, to live in that world while they go through their education.
ISTJs love worksheets, they love order, and they will do best in a homeschool environment with clear expectations and set routines.
ESFPs need to be around people. They don’t care, really, what they are doing, as long as there are groups of people and talking while it is happening.
INFPs need lots of alone time. Going to school for eight hours a day means they would have to spend the rest of the day alone to recuperate from all the demands of socializing and external stimuli.
Can you see, now, how important it is to know your kid’s type? When you understand type you can see the good in your child’s behavior much more easily, and conflict goes way down. For example:
An ENTP might not change clothes all week. It’s not being irresponsible so much as being preoccupied with ideas. An ENTP has so many ideas they can’t focus on anything else.
So I’m doing a course about how to understand your child’s personality type, and I’m especially excited because there are two personality type experts joining me for the course—the two best selling authors of books about personality type for parents and children.
Learn to tell your child’s personality type.
Paul Tieger is the god of personality type for children. He published the book Nurture by Nature to help parents determine their child’s personality type. Then, once you know the type, Tieger has a system for understanding how better to parent that child. He’ll walk you through the systems he has developed, and what I’ve found from working with him in the past is that he can teach you to become an expert in your child’s type in just one hour.
Understand what your child needs and how to provide it.
Each child needs a different type of parenting. Once you know what your child needs, parenting becomes so much easier, and childhood is so much more fulfilling. The goal of homeschooling is to help each child grow into their best self. Knowing what will feel fulfilling to that particular child will help you immeasurably to steer your child through adolescence and into adulthood. This session will show you how to develop daily schedules that will feel good to your children (and to you!) and you’ll also learn how to create long-term strategies to provide options to your kids that are relevant to their type.
Be the best parent for your child.
Each parent has a personality type that may or may not mesh with their child’s personality type. Jane Penley is an expert on how each parenting type works best with each child type. She will show each of us how to use the most effective methods for navigating the combination of our type and our child’s type. Each parenting personality type has its own strengths and weaknesses. First we need to understand those, and then we can understand how to apply our strengths to help our children based on their particular types.
Bonus: This session will give you a good understanding how pairs of personality types work together. You can use this knowledge too for you and your spouse, for one sibling with another, and to anyone who you’d like to communicate with better. Personality type is sort of a like a bottle of Windex—we clean our vision so we see the people in our lives more clearly than ever before.
I hope you’ll join me for this course. I’m so excited about the topic, and the experts who are joining us are really the top in the field. More than that, though, the format of the courses allows for online chat as the courses are happening, and you guys have created such an incredible community here that I know the chat portion of the course will be fun because you’ll all be there.