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Are you a big movie watcher, Penelope? “Molly’s Game” is like the movie version (true story!) of this blog post. A little more intense at times, but same ideas, and a damn good story.
When someone truly is who they are, it’s remarkable enough.
This is so true. That is why I particularly hate all this talk of changing the world directed at children (especially graduation speeches). The overwhelming majority of people will work hard and lead good lives with their loved ones, and there is much satisfaction in that.
I almost feel that in today’s climate, that more accurate message would be attacked as setting the bar too low. However in reality, those healthy relationships that give life meaning should be seen as more of a goal, not a byproduct.
I sure do see a lot of things differently since I’m in my 60’s. I’m loving this time of life so much.
As a parent, the relationships I have with my kids are so important. Choosing to homeschool = choosing that relationship. Regardless of unschooling v curriculum v any other discussion regarding “successful homeschooling,” the best way to measure the success of homeschooling might be the healthiness of the parent/child relationship.
The hard part is that the health of our relationships with others is so dependent on the health of our relationship with OURSELVES. That’s the hardest relationship to really manage, and the one it’s easiest to ignore, and the barometer for the potential health of any of our other relationships. And also, parenting makes it both harder and more necessary to both face our own demons and embrace ourselves. Don’t you think?
Isabelle, I don’t know much about the parenting as I am not one, but I do believe you have hit a nail on its head. A bit of a chicken or egg issue. But surely it starts within.
Great article Penelope. Growing up is a whole different experience than when I was a kid back in the 60’s. Also, I would like to link this in an upcoming post about time as it is related in context. Would that be ok?
I’m a social psychologist, and there’s just SO. MUCH. RESEARCH. showing that meaningful relationships are one of the main sources of happiness for humans, and that people who strive for other things (external validation, money, etc) end up unhappy. You’re probably familiar with much of that research, but email me if you want links to some of the most interesting studies.
It’s funny, though–I know (and believe) the research, but I still struggle to implement it in my own life. It’s easy to know that you should develop meaningful relationships, and much harder to actually do it effectively (particularly for certain personality types).