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  1. Casey
    Casey says:

    Are both your kids in high school already? I totally agree about the blow ups. Not easy being around anyone all day let alone kids. It all becomes normal part of family life. Drama!

  3. Jim Grey
    Jim Grey says:

    Our emotions are like the lights on our car dashboard. They are meant to tell us something about our internal condition. When we can respond rationally when those emotions happen, we really have incredible power to get what we want and protect our interests.

  4. Rachel J.
    Rachel J. says:

    I currently adhere to a philosophy of, “Anger is a signal that there is a problem, it is usually not a good tool to fix the problem.”

    combined with this:

    “’At 70 years old, if I could give my younger self one piece of advice, it would be to use the words ‘fuck off’ much more frequently.”
    – Helen Mirren

  5. Joyce
    Joyce says:

    Thanks for the post! What can we do if we do not feel anger?

    I rarely get angry if I feel it at all. What I usually feel is either happiness or sadness, so I use sadness as a guide instead. If I think that a situation will cause someone else to feel anger, I will speak up or advocate on behalf of the person. But I can only empathize with their sadness, fear, or happiness, but I cannot feel their anger.

  6. Nicole
    Nicole says:

    One of the biggest challenges of my life has been understanding the difference between what is aggressive (damaging) and what is assertive (preserving). Over the past year I really started to tackle understanding how to stand up for myself in order to live the life I want to live, and enjoy the best relationships I can. I’ve made some mistakes, being too brusque or harsh at times, but to my neverending relief and surprise people are usually much more forgiving than I expect. Now I’m able to appreciate those who push my boundaries, because that’s when I learn and put into practice how I will react. Sarah, thank you so much for writing this. I know that in a future tough moment your line “Anger saves us” will come to me, and it will help.

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